Tuesday, November 25, 2025

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME

Bonsoir Inside-the-Loop-ers! Did you hear? It's Scorpitarius Season betch.

Soooo... what we have in front of us is my last year as a forty something. Light the sparklers, pull the pin from the fire extinguisher, and cue le grand tapage! We've been training for this since 1976.


The Js (minus Junie who is currently embedded in the Parisian music scene - making new friends and generally having a "marvelous time ruining" absolutely "everything") kicked off my 49th spin around the sun at Chibuguan Cafe with a Filipino soda and a plate the likes of which I've rarely had the pleasure to drool over. Seriously! I slept on this place MUCH too long and, in penance, you'll likely find me there once a week because I am fully prepared to make right what has been so terribly erroneous for such an awfully lengthy period. Grab your keys, head out to Winterville, and prepare to feel like you've hopped into a very yummy Edward Hopper canvas. On this particular canvas, you'd see Little J delighting us with several rounds of "Goodwill Grab Bag - Thrifts for Humanity." Which I have every intention of asking to play each birthday. Let me also tell you that I am absolutely committed to being "that witch" just as she has commanded via formed plastic and a mason jar with a handle.

Current View: Thanks little J!

Then on Thursday, this little piggy was beside herself to be Mr. Lamb's plus one to jump start the Holiday Soiree Circuit with Jay and the Boulevardians. The National catered - the password is "SPANISH MEATBALLS." The music was everything that Katey's husband never fails to bring to the table! And the company was, in a word, darling.


 
Sunday was like a dream! It started, as most do, with G reading Modern Love to me from the NYT, which we have delivered on Sundays - one of the most romantic (if not THE most) Valentines I've ever received. And continue to cherish. It ended... with two deserts. Which is not typically how I handle things but he made me promise to order anything I wanted. Which ended up being: Tempura Local String Beans, Broiled Oysters, Pumpkin Cake, Chocolate Pecan Pie and a celebratory "Golden Years" because yes TF they are and 100 MF can't tell me nothin. I beez in the trap, be-beez in the trap. 



What I didn't expect to find? Yet another restaurant I'd been sleeping on for far too long. 

Five points Athens (as a staunch Birmingham, Alabama devotee) has not always delivered for me. There is no Hot & Hot, no Fonfon, no Highlands, no Garage. No grocery with Andygator on tap and fried chicken. But there is 5&10.  An establishment that I immediately recognized as the place where we'll want to celebrate almost any milestone I can imagine. When Tucker & Emily visit. When Aes gets an award at school. When someone I love needs a little extra sparkle, we'll go to 5&10. Their menu is exquisite. The staff is lovely. The space is GORGEOUS! But there was something else entirely that filled me with nostalgia: Peter Dale running plates. 

When I bartended on Bourbon Street, our owner would jump behind the bar with me (in an Armani suit no less) any time I was with one customer and there was another person waiting. He did't watch until we were in the weeds.  Or out of glassware. Or in need of more cases of Purple Haze. He pitched in every single time he saw an opportunity to support us. And, as you can imagine, I just thought that's how the world worked. So I spent the next coupla decades finding out that this is very rarely how the F&B industry actually operates. So seeing him drop off a plate of oysters just really hit me in the heart. 

And that pie crust? Shut the front door and lock the back. I have questions. It was perfect. Simply perfect.

Tonight I'm slipping off for another Scorpitarius celebration! What's next? Great question.

IF I even leave the house this week . . . 

Kidding of course. There are holiday markets and plenty of home-for-the-holiday shows but . . . Let's be honest, as long as there is a pan of green bean casserole to clutch, I'll have a hard time leaving it unsupervised.

You're on your own this week.

Tuesday, November 18, 2025

HOW BLUE CAN YOU MAKE ME?

 I think I was five when my great grandmother Big Mama, on a return trip from DC, made my Dad stop the car so that she could get out and walk beside the interstate - muttering, irate, about RR-40 "friend of the rich." This is a story I heard more times than I could count growing up. Posthumously, she was (thinly veiled as it may have been) ridiculed for her political beliefs. With a side of "look at all these things we can buy." I was always fascinated by how "right" (as in absolutely correct) they seemed to fancy themselves. How certain. 

But in 2009... there was only one guy for me. Barack Obama awakened genetic memories. Of Leaders I've only read about in textbooks. Of Orators who are etched in stone.  I finally understood that absolute certainty. Not that our President would be infallible. But that his intentions were to lead us into a type of prosperity that my family did not worship at the alter of. I don't remember sharing that with most of them. We don't measure success, of any form, with the same systems. I'm "metric."

In 2015, I decided that I would rather vote for anyone other than DT-45. Why? His own mouth. So I looked at J Dub (my friend Jessica) after Rotary one day and said "let's go put a Woman in the White House." Then we did. And then we didn't. We were as grief stricken as we had been hopeful. Barack taught us that. Again, I was mostly quiet about my opinions, my disappointments. But when Jessica left for The Women's March, I wanted to support her. So I posted a screenshot on my personal Instagram.




It didn't take a terribly long time 
for me to get the text message:

"Sorry for the short notice but we're making cutbacks. 
Your last paycheck will be at the end of March. 
Love, Dad"


Immediately, the President of the company - my father's sister - began hounding me about taking on responsibility for my Rotary dues. I guess she didn't care to hang on to the community partners and relationships I'd spent over a decade building. And she certainly did not inquire about my wellbeing. Still, I remained moderate. It wasn't until my republican-activist-father's-wife (after letting it sit vacant for years) sold my great grandmother's (yes the same one) house to a stranger for an amount we could have paid in cash... that I officially thought "you know I'd rather walk home from DC on the side of the Interstate than build my life around these people."

And you know the way it just is. 
Nature abhors a vacuum.

So I met Gordon Lamb. And almost immediately gained the kind of family that I was actually born into. Loving. Kind. Checks in on each other. Remembers birthdays. Sends Christmas cards and invites us to celebrations. Lets us know when one of the littles wins an award or has a graduation. Visits each other often. Big holiday spreads and family reunions. I was born into that. But it all fell apart without my Grandmother to keep it going. Fun Fact: Our blended immediate family has a full spectrum of political opinions and associations but we agree on one thing unanimously: to care for each other, is to prosper. For clarity though, I'm still blue as smurfette. But I'm "getting to know" other ideologies - none with a Chief Wannabe. I'm leaving myself open to evolve.

This weekend, Dottie Lamb took us to something I like to call Holiday Hotel and hosted a surprise birthday (mine) pajama party for 4. So I'll not soon get the sound of Dottie, Gordon, and Aes serenading me over Ruth's Chris cookies & cream cheesecake out of my head - entertaining me in the sweetest of daydreams. Not to mention the most thoughtful and precious gifts and a petite but perfect GNO. The little one swam the width of the indoor pool five times without me holding him. The filet was kissed by the chef. And we ended the weekend with our new favorite: sandwiches from Automatic and a "giant pizza with one thousand cheeses." What's next? I can't wait to tell you.

IF I even leave the house this week...

Get to Weaver D's and show the love!


11/19 @ 2 p   Tour at Two

11/19 @ 6 p   Art Trivia

11/20 1-7 p    Africa in Athens

11/20 @ 6 p   3D Printing Class

11/21 @ 9 a   Dekalb FM

11/21 @ 5 p   INCANDESCENCE

11/21 @ 6 p   Art Swap

Tuesday, November 11, 2025

#ArtIsMyDrvgOfChoice

I have lived in: Macon, New Orleans, Birmingham, Asheville/Mars Hill, and Athens. OOP! And, v. briefly, Charleston. I had that place for less than a month. Geographically speaking, I get around. 


In Macon, I’d often tag along to The Museum of Arts & Sciences to help my Mom fulfill her Museum Guild obligation and feed the snake. The GIANT snake. Much later, with Newtown Macon, I put my whole heart into making First Fridays especially enchanting. In New Orleans, every day was a chalk drawing I’d enthusiastically jump into feet first. And there are no words for what The BMA meant to me during my time in Alabama. Asheville began to blur the lines between art and spirituality. And art became a way to move inward, receive deeper messages, and offer healing to the 18 year old whose AP teacher told her that she wasn’t very talented. Here in Athens, I recovered the courage to create. Without judgement. Sure! I’m some people’s least favorite writer. But I don’t judge myself. And I write for the people who don’t either. So haters areactually romantic.” And cheerleaders are always welcome! But I write so that anyone who is interested can understand the alchemy behind the way I choose to move through this world. Lately, that means opening my arms wide to let go of the addiction to people please. And so it is, as it has always been, that . . . 


Art. Is my drvg of choice.


On Friday, I made my way to a pop-up “dispen$ary” -  the Fall 2025 Dodd Market. 


What. A. Score.


I was absolutely electrified by the bustling market that sprung to life in those halls and spilled out onto both patios. There was so much talent! Even when someone tried to throw me a "price-upon-request" line from behind a folding plastic table... I wasn't mad. It's (simultaneously) absolutely none of my business how they handle their business and 1000% "all part of the learning curve."  



@Art.By.Lucie sent me home with this treasure! 

In no particular order, 
I catalogued a dozen of my favorites:


@doesprout


@caitlyn.hosford


@aidanventiart


@t0ris_w0rld_


@nerdo_sketch


@designs_by_jel


@marcella.vlahos


@alysasartwork


@arianamiah.art


@averychambersart


@art_by_.chelsea


@art.by.lucie


In most recent daydreams, The Grand Egyptian Museum has absconded with a good bit of my idle attention. I'm equal parts "get me to Cairo" and "which scene in Idiocracy are we living now?" Treasures plucked from the underworld, juxtaposed with tacky people smacking their gum shoulder-to-shoulder in fast fashion. I'd rather stay home with my own treasures. For now, anyway.


Ath-hole of the Week: The round piece of paper underneath my soup dumplings that you'd need to complete a surgical residency in order to remove without piercing the dumpling. Get it together lil' Robot.


IF I even leave the house this week:


11/12 @ 6:00 pm Morton Theatre         Victor Ryan Robinson

11/12 @ 7:30 pm  B&B Theatres  Wicked Movie Trivia

11/13 @ 7:00 pm Sandy Creek  Astronomy Club

11/14 @9:30 am GA Museum of Art  Morning Mindfulness

11/14 @ 8:00 pm Hendershots  Blue Stars & Jacob Morris

11/16 @ 7:00 pm Hugh Hodgson CH  Branford Marsalis Quartet