. . . Are You Love "Sick"?
Katharine Hepburn said that "Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything." I've been trying to perfect this practice since I can remember.
The good news is that I am more stubborn than human. So every mistake that I make places me one step closer to being able to (truly) give and expect nothing in return.
The bad news is that this concept is "Ouch" for our poor struggling economy. Well it would be if there hadn't been so much money spent convincing us that one must both get and give on "VD", a rather hilarious abbreviation for Valentines Day . . . and other forms of "love" that one can be given.
But has Valentines Day itself become an infection? Is it something we're forced to deal with or treat just because it's there?
The prescriptions have certainly become standardized by brand and mercilessly marketed. Ahem . . . Hallmark Cards! Red Roses & Dinner at the most expensive restaurant you can afford (and shame on you if that means generic).
I'll tell you one thing . . . if that's Valentines Day then bah-humbug! I don't want it.
Most women's favorite flowers are not red roses. Mine happen to be peonies but I don't want them in response to it being a certain day on the calendar. And I'd rather have a handwritten note on a post-it every now and then (during the other 364) than a sentiment that has been mass produced and shipped worldwide. Dinner, on blanket, with a fire, and some friendly competition. That's romance.
My point of view will most definitely be an unpopular one with the advertising community. But if you're looking for something meaningful to give your own Fellow or Fräulein this February 14th . . . or any day for that matter, then you might want to pay attention.
I think the most important gift you can give someone are your thoughts. On that note, I don't know how they ever came to be equated with a penny's worth of value? Write them a letter. If a post-it is even out of your league, take a note from Mr. Big and send them a famous letter. (for those who have not seen Sex & The City: he sent her famous love letters . . . and he sent them electronically - so the key is not fine paper and flowery language.) Great books on the subject are readily available.
If you're going to give them a gift, choose something that's a utilitarian luxury like a fine writing pen and they will think of you every time they use it. I've had a guitar pick engraved before. If you struggle with this, don't be afraid to ask a friend of theirs.
And my last bit to offer is this . . . expect nothing in return - absolutely nothing. You made someone else feel loved. Isn't that the greatest gift? I would rather see a smile on someone's face (and know that I made it) than feel one on my own any day of the week. Smiles that you create are far more precious than those that you experience.
Why so? Well, I can make myself smile all day long. If I didn't think my face would start to hurt. And I'll tell you something else I am going to be making . . . my Valentine something by hand this year. So suck on that "every kiss begins with Kay!"
Love you all . . .
aS
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Macon Film Festival (MAGA)
Feb 19 – 22, 2009
The Macon Film & Video Festival (MAGA) announces special guests Vince Dooley, Karen Black and Carrie Preston will be in Macon for the fourth annual film festival taking place in historic downtown Macon.
MAGA Executive Producer Passes are $100 and includes admission to the entire festival. It also includes access to nightly MAGA after-parties and a V.I.P. meet-and-greet with Vince Dooley, starting at 5 p.m., at the Grand Opera House, where pass holders will also have reserve seating for the documentary screening.
These passes are free to volunteers! So call me at 361-9645 if you’re interested.
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